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We are very experienced in working with Depression at Counselling4you.

Depresssion is in the top 3 problems we work with on a day-to-day basis. Even though anti-depressants are generally given out to people because approximately 1 in 5 are suffering this horrible condition at any one time, there is still a stigma attached to it. Anti-depressants will take the edge off of depression, but in general they will not solve the problem. Apart from reactive depression most depression is the result of deeper issues, either current long term issues or historical problems.

What Does it Feel Like?

Crushed, overwhelmed, devastated, torn, these waves of feelings wash over those who suffer, blinding most if not all vision and hope. 

There is so much to say about Depression that we cannot cover all of the information in depth on our web site. 

We will try to cover the basic types, causes, affects and methods for recovery, also keep the information relatively straightforward because it can become complex.

The stigma still attached to Depression brings with it misconceptions and misunderstanding.

Although the general public’s attitude is one of burying their head in the sand, we cannot get away from the fact that people have about a 20% chance of suffering with Depression in one form or another in their life time. It does not mean madness or insanity. 

Often called " the Black Dog" Depression is very difficult to define, it can be like a moving invisible fog coming from nowhere, settling on you, then either moving away or staying for days, months or even years. Sometimes it is a reaction to a life event and this is normally easier to treat. The trouble is, it does not just settle on your head, it invades your whole body including the way you think, your mood, bodily functions, perceptions, rationality and so on. The worst thing to say to a depressed person is pull your socks up, shake yourself off or pull yourself together, it just does not work and in a lot of cases makes the sufferer feel a whole lot worse. One of the other horrible effects of depression is the level of suffering. The symptoms vary considerably from person to person. A majority of the time a sufferer will not understand it, unfortunately this makes it very hard for the carers of affected people to have enough patience and the required coping/helping skills to ably give the right type of support. The key word for any carer is patience because what you see and hear from the sufferer simply will not make much sense much of the time. 

Typical Symptoms of Depression

All of the above symptoms can join together in changing the inner and outer life of a person suffering with Depression, it could be described as a nice little snow ball beginning to roll down a hill, but by the time it arrives at the bottom it is huge and uncontrollable.  It also takes a very long time to melt back into the nice little snow ball you had at the beginning.

It is estimated that 5-10% of the population suffers from Depression and needs help at any one time (that is this minute).  This means that in a crowd of 50,000 at a football match as many as 5000 may be depressed. This is on a growing trend and it will become the second most common illness after heart problems within twenty years. 

  • The average age to start suffering is between 20 and 40 years, and 20% of people are between 35 and 44.   
  • It does not matter if we are male or female, what our background is, how much money we have etc. Depression shows no respect and doesn't discriminate.
  • It costs the UK about £9billion per year in medication and time off work.   
  • Insomnia

Women Are More at Risk Than Men. 

In some studies, women with Depression out-number men 2 to 1, especially at certain times of their life. The days and weeks following childbirth and menopause are the main factors. Depression and irritability are common symptoms of pre-menstrual syndrome and it is said to be precipitate in some women by oral contraceptives. In England alone there are over 1000, new cases per week of Postnatal Depression and many are still unrecorded or undetected.   

Many famous people throughout history have suffered.  

  • Abraham (Book of Genesis 15)  
  • Winston Churchill
  • Jonah (Book of Jonah 4)                                      
  • Vincent Van Gogh
  • Job (Book of Job)                          
  • Ludwig van Beethoven
  • Elijah (1 kings 19)                            
  • Abraham Lincoln
  • King Saul (1 Samuel 16:14-23)                      
  • Mark Twain
  • Jeremiah (Book of Jeremiah)                 
  • Oliver Cromwell 
  • King David (Psalm 6 and many other instances)                
  • Isaac Newton 
  • Les Dawson                                     
  • Stephen Fry
  • Angelina Jolie
  • Will Smith
  • Robin Williams


A major Depression is usually recognised as a combination with 5 symptoms that occur together and last for at least a two week period without any significant improvement. Below we have listed some the main symptoms that generally need to present in a two-week period. 

  • Loss of interest in everything, even hobbies etc.
  • Continually sad, anxious, depressed, irritable.
  • Pessimistic, no hope, can't be bothered, don't care.
  • Feeling worthless, helpless, useless, and dead inside, unemotional, guilty.
  • Restless, agitated, stressed, not concentrating.
  • Loss appetite and loss of weight, conversely over eating and weight gain.
  • Loss of memory, unable to make simple decisions, can't think straight.
  • Loss of energy, chronic tiredness, over sleeping, under sleeping.
  • Markedly lower hygiene standards, shaving, washing etc.
  • Constantly thinking of death or suicide. 

This list is just for your information and offered to increase your understanding, if you are in any doubt about yourself or another person please ask for advice or make an appointment to see your doctor and counselling4you. 

There Are Many Different Categories For Depression.

Uni-polar (Monopolar) Depression (20% of people)    

Clinical Depression

Reactive Depression 

Endogenous/Autonomous/Psychotic/Biological Depression 

Neurotic Depression: 

Organic based Depression 

This is caused by illness, such as strokes and cancer or the effects of the drugs and medication. 

Chronic Depression 

Bipolar Depression (Manic) 

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) 


Counselling4you will help with Cognitive Therapy and other positive techniques such as, relaxation, body awareness, challenging negative thoughts etc. A lot of Depression is caused by unresolved pain and anger either from the past of in present.

Thoughts about Depression

Like falling into a deep pit

The mud slips and slides

So you can’t get a grip.

The sharp stones rip and graze

As you fight against the downward pull

Exhaustion and despair

Seems to be everywhere.

The fight for life begins to flee.

Finally you hit the bottom

With a hard bone-shaking thud.

What’s the use? I’m tired, I’m lonely.

You decide to die in the mud.
As you lay there sobbing

With nothing at your side, except Despair

A sweet fragrance and gentle voice

Starts to fill the air

Soft comforting hands gently wrap around

Slowly you are lifted from the pit

And set gently on the ground.

You hear a voice “my child I am here, all is well”.

Upon opening your eyes see a light

And realise you are no longer at the gates of hell.