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What type of problems can I take to counselling?

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Problems come in all shapes and sizes and are as unique as the people who bring them. What is normal for one person will abnormal to the next person, this depends mainly on upbringing and the experiences associated with it.

These question are very important to you and we feel that although frankly answered they are honest and you deserve nothing less of us. The therapeutic relationship starts here and it has to be built on trust, this is not possible unless we are straight forward and give as accurate picture as possible. 

Can my counsellor deal with all problems ?

This depends on the level of training and experience of the counsellor. No counsellor is equipped to deal with every situation and issue posed by our clients. Although most counsellors have been through their own counselling, personal experiences can also get in the way of certain issues. Our training does in general cover most common types of problematical issues and by having continual professional training each year we find ourselves leaning towards some subjects more than others, some counsellors go on to specialise in specific subjects. 

What will happen on our first meeting?

Firstly, our aim is to provide you a safe place in which to be heard, in a non-judgemental, warm environment, where trust can be built between you and your counsellor.

The first meeting is called an "initial consultation," ( approx 50 minutes), this meeting is not in itself a commitment to start therapy;  you would be asked to give an outline of your presenting problem/s and a brief history of your self covering aspects you feel are relevant to you. There would be a time for you to ask any questions or express any worries or concerns you may have. The counsellor would outline confidentiality, types of counselling, fee's, and other general information. Counselling is about people and relationships and at the end of the session both you and the counsellor would mutually decide whether or not to start regular weekly sessions. If so an appointment would be made for the following week.

Will I feel silly if my problems are too small

If your problem is big enough for you to consider counselling it is not too small. Part of feeling silly is because we all compare ourselves and our problems to other people's, more often than not their view of a problem will be totally different from yours and visa versa. What is normal for some people may not be normal for you. One of the other problems people find is that they assume that they are the only one who feels like this or are being affected like this. This is not true, sometimes there is a huge relief in knowing that many other people feel exactly the same as you and that you are not alone and do fit in.

Will my counsellor discuss me with anyone else?

 We maintain the highest possible levels of confidentiality in order to respect our client’s privacy and to create the trust essential for counselling. We adhere to the A.C.C and B.A.C.P codes of ethics, therefore we not give out any information about you unless someone's safety is at risk or we are obliged to do so by law.

 Do you provide counselling for Gay & Lesbian people?

We offer counselling to anyone, irrespective of gender, sexual orientation, religion or culture .

How many sessions will I need?

This will depend on the type of problem/s, in general our clients have found it easier to think of counselling as their very own journey after all, no one knows you better than you! You know when you are hungry, tired, happy, sad etc, you are also the only one who knows when you have reached a stage in your therapy where you feel secure and confident enough to work towards a suitable conclusion.

How will I know if your counselling is working?

Again this would entirely depend on the type of problem/s we are attempting to resolve; under normal circumstances some clients would notice a degree of change within the first few weeks, often just because of a developing awareness of them selves. This will also depend on the client’s commitment to attend regularly, reflect on each session and where possible bring their session into every day life. We do however monitor our clients progress through out the sessions and always conduct a review every 6/8 sessions, to evaluate progress, to see if there are any changes you would like to make, etc. Your wellbeing is our priority so regular assessment is essential.

How much will I have to pay?

Please see "Our terms" page

What do I do now?

You can e-mail us or phone us with any further questions you may have , details are on :-

Our "Contact Details" page

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